The better understanding you have of how a woman thinks, how she processes attraction and how she determines a man’s value, the less important the dating location and activities become.
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean you can take a woman to some hole in the wall bar or cheesy fast food joint just because you’re a man of high value. But it does mean that the company will become more important than the surroundings. Just think about this: haven’t you ever known someone who you always had fun with no matter what you were doing?
That’s the kind of connection you want with a woman. Too many men rack their brains trying to come up with extravagant date activities because they lack confidence in their ability to create attraction with a woman. Women can smell this coming a mile away, and that’s why so many men overdo it by taking women out to nice places and spending a TON of money only to find out that she’s not that impressed with him.
And why would she be?
He went out of the way to create attraction using exterior things, when what she was really looking for was a connection with a man who fulfilled her needs for excitement and security.
So don’t sweat it if these date ideas don’t sound like earth shattering innovations at first. Instead, understand that the point of a great date is to set the stage for you to make a great connection with her and to demonstrate that you are a man of high value.
Here we go…
Date #1: Group Dancing Lessons
This is not to be confused with taking her to a loud club where you can’t hear each other and shaking your booties for an hour or two. Find a place that offers group dance lessons for beginners for partner dancing like ballroom, salsa etc. and take her there.
The activity of dancing will bring you into contact with one another without you having to do the: “Should I put my arm around her now?” Physical contact is a great way to build attraction and to get you comfortable with one another. Also, you’ll have something to talk about, and perhaps even to laugh at each other about, during and after the date.
But there are two other benefits of this kind of date that you might not have thought of: first of all, you’ll probably be dancing with other people as well as one another, and that’s a good thing. The fact that you’re willing to see your date dance with other men will demonstrate that you’re confident, secure and not prone to jealousy. Remember, insecurity is a sign of low value and insecurity is at the root of jealousy.
Most women will even test you to see if you’re prone to jealousy. So you can demonstrate yourself as a man of high value right away by taking her to a group dance class. Not to mention that you’ll get an idea of how secure she is with seeing her date dance with other women.
But the other benefit is that dance lessons might turn out to be something you do together long term, which will be very good for the relationship. Many married couples have reignited the spark in their marriage by taking dance lessons. It gives the relationship a purpose beyond the mundane and helps to strengthen the bond.
TIP: If the dancing goes well, take her out for a drink or a cup of coffee afterwards. You may not get a lot of talking done during the dance lessons, but it will be a great icebreaker and will help you both relax. It will also give you something to talk about. So take advantage of this by taking her somewhere that you can talk. You can even sneak some physical contact by “rehearsing” the hand positions you learned during class.